It seems as though the election of our current President of the United States has shifted a great deal of focus on equal rights. The idea that we are all the same and deserve equal treatment in education, business, personal, and general humanity. However, we are NOT all alike and the more we tout this idea the more we repress our own ability to face the awkward.
No two human beings are the same, well unless they’re identical twins. Even in identical twins where they come from a single fertilized egg, their appearance may be slightly different and their fingerprints are different. Getting the concept of inclusion based on equal rights and not seeing differences is a concept built by our imagination. Our minds are attempting to make us feel better about ourselves if we don’t see and acknowledge differences that are uncomfortable. Or possibly ones that we were taught as a child to laugh at or belittle. An extreme example is one of a mentally challenged or retarded child. Depending where they are on the spectrum of their issues they function at varying levels. For the most part, although some may excel intellectually in certain areas, they typically don’t function like others do interpersonally. This break in the continuum of communication styles makes it uncomfortable to deal with them. People will tend to walk away, laugh, or worse even harass and bully. All stemming from the same place, the awkwardness. Acknowledging they are different is a healthy way for your brain to begin to figure out how to find a different communication style with them. The more we repress our own thoughts and feelings the more they tend to rear their ugly head in other ways.
A prime example of this is the use of the word “pussy” which has now become commonplace but was taboo until 6 months ago. This word epitomized everything that women were trying to fight against for years; the repression and abuse of females. One man in power uses it and women reclaimed it as their own and used it unflinchingly. It threw women into everything from irritation to a rage prompting marches across the globe. The goal was to show how strong females were, their staying power, power in numbers, and that nobody was going to quiet or control them. There was a new push towards feminism except even females weren’t agreeing on what feminism meant anymore. Some wanted to march, some wanted to stay home and cook. There was a new need to show how alike the sexes are, yet they aren’t. There are plenty of clear differences in appearance, strength, areas of intelligence, reproduction, hormones and the list goes on.
During this time with the harsh verbiage against immigrants, the brown, yellow, purple, and black came to the forefront. In an attempt to show that they also are a force to be reckoned with and will not be pushed around. The theme of the country became fear, fear instilled by a man with hateful words. Nobody felt safe and many came out fighting.
If we took DNA samples from the above aforementioned we would see that nobody is the same. Acknowledging those differences says that you are acknowledging how and why someone is their special self. Whether it be their brown skin, kinky hair, light eyes, propensity towards math prowess, high jumping skills, patience etc. Until we recognize these things, we continue to repress it in ourselves. As long as this happens, the conscious or unconscious oppression of groups of people will continue. Everyone is entitled to basic and equal human rights.
We must face our own fears, our own darkness in order to become the best possible people we can be. Only then will we be able to sit in the thick of our discomfort, look at people and things that make us squirm or laugh or cry or run in fear. Only then will we be able to bring the fears to the forefront and act on love. Life is up and down, life is uncomfortable, life is awkward. Walk through the fire and come out a flame of hope.
Written by Kristen Carla Blogger/Acupuncture Physician www.facebook.com/kristencarla
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